A dear sister from our fellowship in Nairobi earlier this week was looking rather sad. We were sharing about our relationships with our biological fathers and how the experiences with them affected how we relate with our heavenly Father. Of the experiences shared, they largely had not so positive effect on the view we initially have of Him.

Jesus as He contrasted our fathers with our Father asked: “If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children: how much more shall your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to them that ask him?”(Lk 11:13)

Back to this sister that looked sad. When it came to her turn to share her own, something really stood out. She is the kind of person that is very forthright and speaks her mind and heart – I really like that. She said she did not have a relationship with her father so much so she used to write letters to communicate to him. So in the course of her growing up, she always blamed her father for not relating like a father with her.

So why was she looking and feeling low? There was something personal she was experiencing that she could not share and she was blaming her heavenly Father for it. Supposedly He knew her desires and this particular incidence, the current situation was contrary to her desires. We all had our guesses, I presume, but I could not in my wildest thinking have thought about what I discovered 2 days later.

The sister herself confessed to me that what she was blaming God for was that she was expectant (with child). She was ok with the three children she already have, but now she has discovered she is expecting a fourth one. If you were in her shoes, who would you blame for the blessing?

Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.

As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.

Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate. (Ps 127)”

Our Father is to ‘blame’ for our blessings!